Why does it take so long to gain an ounce of self-esteem, and such a short time to destroy it? One word, one phrase, one criticism is all it takes sometimes to destroy a dream, shatter a passion, obliviate the success.
There has to be a better way. It is similar to our weight. It takes hard work, and time to lose weight safely, yet, it seems to take no time at all to gain it..
Balance...Finding balance in body and mind. I have this bag of others comments, opinions, judgements that I carry with me every day. The bag gets heavier and heavier, weighing me down. I am getting tired of carrying it with me all the time.
I also have a beautiful box that I keep in a very special place at home. It is hidden, for safe keeping. It contains my successes...my accomplishments...the things I am proud of. It also holds the compliments that I get here and there...sometimes daily.
You know the ones...the ones you get at work, out with friends, or even at the store. We roll our eyes(I have that one down) we brush it off, ignore it. Somehow we have trained ourselves so that we dont even hear it. If we do happen to hear it, we push it away as if it doesnt exist, feeling as if they must have been talking to someone else. That couldnt be me, I dont deserve that.
Why dont we decide to carry around our special boxes? The one that contains pride, happiness, fullfillment, success....vs. the heavy bag that contains disturbing, disappointing and disruptive thoughts. I do not know if I want to carry that anymore. It is unwelcome, unwanted, unpleasant and unnessecary.
I am realizing that we have the control of what we decide to carry with us, and what we can decide to leave at home or throw away.
Lets all take a vacation!...a permanent one, and only bring that special box of good thoughts, supportive memories, confidence building successes. Lets also bring our favorite clothes. The ones that make you feel good about yourself. They are comfortable on your body, and fit the way you like.
Lets let go of the heavy box. Unpack those unwanted criticisms, the judgements, the comparisons. Lightening our load, both physically and emotionally. Trying not to get caught up collecting that heavy stuff. Simplify, release and let go. Get the balance in your life back. Life is too short to always be so unsure, unsteady and off balance.